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Your Guide to Being a Pallbearer at a Funeral

Your Guide to Being a Pallbearer at a Funeral

In the past, pallbearers were selected based on their size and age. The strongest male family members and friends were selected to help carry the heavy casket into the church and from the church into the cemetery. These days, most caskets are placed on a stand that has wheels so it can move easily. Pallbearers are still selected and used today, but the task is a little different. The pallbearers lift the casket and carry it a short distance, but they also play a ceremonial role in showing who the deceased loved. If you are asked to be a pallbearer at a funeral, it should be a great honor. But if you have never done it before, you may not know what your role involves.

What to Expect

When you are a pallbearer, you will be expected to arrive at the funeral early and stay later than everyone else. You are playing an important role, and as such, it is important that you arrive when you are expected to. A funeral director will tell you what order to stand in and when you should help to lift or lower the casket. Follow all directions, and you will be able to do your job appropriately. 

Lastly, it is important to understand that this is a special job. It may seem unpleasant to carry a casket, but you were asked to serve in this position because the deceased loved you and the family respects and values you.

How to Dress

These days, it is not expected that you wear all black to a funeral. But if you are a pallbearer, it is still custom to wear primarily black, unless you are asked to do otherwise. Sometimes, the family helps to coordinate the look of the pallbearers or asks them to wear a tie or a bow tie in the deceased's favorite color. Ask the funeral director if you are unsure what is appropriate.

Where You Will Sit

Most pallbearers will sit toward the front of the funeral, in a special seating area. This helps them to take a seat after the casket is brought in and allows them easy access when the service is over without disturbing other guests. While you may want to sit with your friends or family, it is important to sit where you are asked if you are a pallbearer. 

The Importance of This Task

Lastly, it is important to understand that this is an honorable job. It may seem unpleasant to carry a casket, but you were asked to serve in this position because the deceased loved you and the family respects and values you. Always keep this in mind and take your role as a pallbearer seriously. 

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